Anonymous asked: So I have a question to ask. I feel like I'm depressed, but I don't know how to prove that fact. To be quite honest, I love both of yours blogs it's almost like an inspiration to me. You two seem to both breakaway from reality and express yourselves. However, I need advice on something. If I want to tell my parents how I feel, do you think it's a good thing or a bad thing? I don't want them to disown me or anything. Please help.

I think it’s a good thing to tell your parents how you feel. It somewhat relieves some of that stress you have in you. However, it may be very difficult to just tell them like that. If you have an older brother or sister, talk with them and see if they can be in the room with you while you tell your parents to have them reassure you. I know I had my sister there when I told my parents. I told my parents that I cut myself, that I starved myself, and that I had suicidal thoughts. I’m sure your parents won’t disown you. If they care, they would try to look for help. If you feel like your depressed, tell them that as always. I told my parents and they did everything they can. When I was in middle school (seventh grade), I did things like this on my own. I went to counseling at school and then I was sent to the school psychiatrist. My parents were notified but never question why. Now I’m a Freshmen in high school, and until now, I told them. It’s stressful, but in the end, your parents will come to find some ways to help you. Therapy can help, and maybe even counseling from school. It’s a difficult thing coming out to your parents, but they will still love you even for your imperfections. I hope this helps and please if anything else you can ask me here or ask me on my main blog here. 

~Monica xo

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Thank you very much! 

And to answer your question, just tell them. Like a week ago I told my mom I think I’m depressed. At first your parents might start assuming things, get upset, and that may overwhelm you. Just try to calm them down and make sure to tell them why you think you feel that way. Give them reasons. That’s important. If you don’t they might start assuming why and probably make a big deal over it. They might think you’re “crazy” or looking for attention and they might think that because they don’t want to hear that their kid is depressed. Probably because a lot of people who get depressed become suicidal. They don’t want that. So let them understand. Give them reasons, when you started feeling like that, and just talk about it. I said it because I was really upset and my mom was really upset with me so I just said to myself “I’m done” and told her I think I’m depressed. She freaked a bit. That happens. But don’t  feel ashamed. Depression is a medical condition. It’s okay to have it just as long as you’re getting the help you need. 

See a therapist/counselor/psychologist they’re really the same thing. A school counselor is usually free. I see one every Friday and I used to see a psychologist. If you start to feel worse, it’s okay, keep going. Just let yourself get better. Bring your parents. All of you in one room with a therapist and just get things out. Trust me, it helps. Please get your help, feel better.

Ashley<3

Anonymous asked: Thanks you two! It means a lot that I got both of you to give advice. But the thing I don't understand is why are two beautiful remarkable girls like you two, have been through so much? You two are very nice and caring for others.

Aw thank you so much! Personally, I’ve seen some things when I was really young. Some horrific things.So I always feel like I should’ve and could’ve done something more to help at such a young age. And helping others just helps fill up that hole that’s been in me for so long.

I love to help people. It’s something I really enjoy it and I want you to know that you can count on me. I’m always willing help someone.

Ashley

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Thank you! ^-^

Unlike Ashley, I haven’t seen many horrific things. Yes I saw one thing that still haunts me in the night, but I tried to find some way to get that memory out of my head. However, around fifth grade I knew I could do something for others. I wanted to help others and make sure they had someone to talk to. I didn’t want anyone to feel alone or end there life because no one cared. Like Ashley, I can agree that helping others does get my mind off those stressful things I’ve been through.

Helping is others is something I enjoy. I don’t like seeing anyone hurt, and it makes me happy to know that someone is willing to talk to me and trust me with there issues. I’m always open to talk to you and help you with anything. 

Monica 

Anonymous asked: Okay, so I have a big problem. If you both can give me an opinon on what I can do, that be super. So, I have been through a lot of shit. Like my parents always ignore for some apparent reason, they always tell me to be like my brother who is an ignorant asshole. I mean sure he's a 4.0 GPA and all, but he's a fucking truck driver now. He does drugs and whatever. I'm only a Freshmen in high school, but I'm annoyed. I thought about self harming..I'm just confused. What should I do?

Whatever you do, don’t self harm. It’s never the answer to hurt yourself. I know what its like to have parents tell you to be like someone that your not. Especially if it’s an older sibling. At the same time, I have also self harmed myself. I’ve done it many times. But, I’m telling you now, don’t do it. Just ignore your parents and be who you are. Don’t let them change you. As much as you love your parents, they need to learn to accept you and know that you are not your brother. You are you, and no one can make you someone your not. I bet you are a very beautiful person, and no one should bring you down like that. Not even your parents. I hope this helps you, and if you ever need to talk about this situation feel free to ask away here or on mine or Ash’s blog. We’re here for you xo <3

~Monica

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I totally get you for I’m always compared to my younger brother. I get it, it’s annoying. 

Do not self harm. It won’t make anything better, I promise you that. I self harm, it’s addicting, gross, annoying, stressful, and makes things worse.

Talk about it to your parents. If they’re like my mom (I only live with my mom) and they sorta ignore what you say and keep doing it, go see a therapist. A school counselor is probably better because it’s free. Trust me, I see a school counselor every Friday and it has helped because she’s there to listen and lets me talk. That’ll be very good for your situation. It’s hard at first, I’m not going to lie. You might feel worse. But it gets better in a matter of time. You just have to let it flow. 

Think. Have some alone time and think. Don’t think to much. Once you catch your self overthinking things, stop thinking. Anyway, just think about how you really feel. Make a little plan of some kind. Maybe you can have a little family conference and talk about it with your parents and brother. Just tell them what you feel. Help them understand. You can also bring your parents to see a therapist because they need to learn to not bring their kid down like that. It’s not right. You need to feel good about yourself, you need to make your own decisions, and you have to speak up for yourself.

Just get the help. Don’t let your self get lost in yourself. Get things out. Seriously, do not self harm. Don’t let yourself go. I hope things get better for you. If you need more advice, I’m always here to help and at my main blog (vertabra-e). And if things get a little personal and you don’t want to just let your problems out in the open, you  can absolutely get off anon and I could talk to you privately. Feel better soon.<3

Ashley

Anonymous asked: Hi, I need to get over a sort of breakup and I haven't the slightest clue how. You know how you want to get over someone but you can't stop thinking about them? Well that's what's happening to me right now. I need help.

Ah I getcha. Just distract yourself. Don’t let it get to you. It’s going to keep happening. You’ll get through it. Show him/her that you’re over them, be happy. Do what makes you happy. Avoid things you two did together because that can make you feel worse. Just know that you’re beautiful. If they broke up with you, whatever. They don’t know what they just gave away. You’re better than them. Show him/her that and keep moving on. 

Hope you feel better soon.♥

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